marlz. daughter. sister. friend. cousin. girl. 1988. born to die.
keskiviikkona, marraskuuta 29, 2006
oh shut up already
i really hate it when someone words the things they wish to express in a manner such that no one can understand what you're talking about.
i don't profess to be an expert in communication or in the english language or any language for that matter. but i have a few rules to the way i communicate, since i believe in effective communication or none at all. i'll share!
1. remember who you are communicating with. some things you say to your friend might make them roar and roll on the floor, but try saying the same thing to your mom. she'd roar and then slap you for being so impertinent. and its not just family i'm talking about. the person you communicate with needs to understand what you're saying so if you're talking to the ah pek at the coffee shop who rarely speaks english (i would recommend don't attempt the english at all, unless you're like me and have no choice) about something that is confusing, don't use the word convoluted. cos you're being just that.
2. its good and fine to have fillers when you speak but its another thing to have fillers when you type. i know of a certain teacher who says ok repeatedly in mjc. and you know when you're surprised somehow you can't seem to say anything else besides oh my God. but please, when you're writing something, be it an email or a love letter, don't keep repeating certain words and phrases. granted, it is your style, but it also shows your abysmal vocabulary. the precise beauty about writing something as opposed to speaking, is that you have a good deal more time to choose your words and make sure they are appropriate and interesting. if you rush that, then you risk your ability to remain non-irritating.
3. only rush writing when you have written 13 pages worth of words for an essay and have 5 minutes left to squeeze in 2-3 points in an examination. i'm sure if you repeat a few words it wouldn't be so bad. otherwise, don't rush when you're writing. its not that great, trust me.
4. profanities aren't meant to be peppered everywhere. they are good for making a point, they are good for comedies, and they occur when you are overwhelmed with emotion. but they are not, and i repeat, they are NOT meant to be used like punctuation. the tasteful use of the f-rench word in a poem is fine, but not if its used as the comma at the end of each stanza. and they aren't good with parents or grandparents. they spell d-i-s-r-e-s-p-e-c-t. besides, there are always other ways to show you are angry and fed up and not end up showcasing your lack of vocabulary. develop a sharp tongue and be sarcastic, and show you're smart as well as pissed. or you could use a super high tone of voice that is superbly irritating and usually succeeds in angering the other party more than you. which is the point in any argument, if you're like me.
5. if you don't know what a word means, then don't use it. ask someone from my class who used the word epileptic in the place of epistolary. very BIG difference. or my mother who claimed that enigma had the same meaning as stigmata. haha.
6. if you don't know how to pronounce a word or something on the menu. don't try. just point. you'd look a lot less like a dimwit and the waiter or whoever's serving you will get the point. if you really want to try, then ask how do you pronounce it. don't be dumb and have a whole line of delifrance patrons laugh at you for pronouncing quiche as "kui-CH-e".
7. don't string many difficult words together. you are being difficult. seriously. unless you really think it will impress your date. hey, i wouldn't know would i? its your date, not mine, so you deal with the rejection. but for every other situation, its best to keep it simple. again, it depends on who you are talking to, but mostly during informal situations, taking cues from your buddies or companions is always better than launching into a conversation that no one will understand in the first place.
8. if you aren't that good with language, don't string all the difficult words you know (limited as the number may be) together. you'd sound ridiculous, and its likely that it'll not just become overkill, but you'd make no sense. and people would laugh at you. and we all know we never like to be laughed at, we like to be laughing with.
9. if you're outside and dealing with shopkeepers and the general public, use the P's & Q's. please. it makes you sound so much nicer and you get better service or a big sincere smile. i'm serious. especially if you are grammatically sound and don't use pidgin english. then they'd think you are a foreigner, which usually works to your advantage. and a smile never fails to charm them either, so throw one of those in.
10. if you aren't going to talk to someone, avoid them. because you're not gonna make any sense if you're intent on not talking to them nicely. and you WILL blurt out things that won't help you much at all, if you dislike those said people intensely. so just talk to people you know, love, respect and like. or all of the above.
and that's how i choose to communicate. that off my chest, i'm going to east coast. yay!
11/29/2006 03:51:00 ip.
sunnuntaina, marraskuuta 26, 2006
ah what the heck
i've seen this everywhere so i might as well do it :
7 Random Facts About Me
i've practically a uniform cupboard with nothing but uniforms and "home clothes" in it. and the Baju Kurungs. which is a sure sign i need to go shopping.
i hate town and i hate going out. i only go to places that are relatively isolated, or where i don't have a great chance of bumping into anyone familiar.
i like being alone. not that i don't have friends or anything, but i treasure my alone time and my family time a great deal more than going out with friends.
like any other self respecting finnish girl, i know the swedish name of my hometown. which is vilmanstrand by the way.
i'm really uncomfortable about the fact that i look different from other people. i much rather be in a "white" country where i would be stared at less as compared to asia
i love to cook and do home-y stuff like arts and crafts and i don't mind doing housework.
i like being goofy but i don't dare do it in public cos i'm scared of appearing nuts.
7 Things That Scare Me
losing my family or someone close suddenly
God and what may come after death.
the prospects of a boring and unhappy and unfulfilling life
people who gaze and not stare. if you stare i'll stare right back. if you gaze, then i can't gaze back. it just makes me irritable and fidgety and nervous, don't ask why
all creepy crawlies, but i'm getting better at killing them
making big life changing decisions. especially when there are so many options
not being able to take care of my parents and my family when the time comes
7 Random Music At The Moment
mama - my chemical romance
hate to say i told you so - the hives
aerials - system of a down
innuendo - queen
carnival of rust - poets of the fall
rakkauslaulu - the rasmus (its uber cute!)
mozart's requiem
bittersweet - apocalyptica feat. ville valo and lauri ylonen
7 Things I Like The Most
the blue bicycle that's my companion on many nights and on certain long cycling days
the trusty creative mp3 which eases my boredom
my copy of the lord of the rings which i have read 15 times to date
my library card cos i love reading
being at the beach
the internet cos i have all the information i could ever want at my fingertips
my atm card cos its sure beats carrying wads of cash around all the time
7 Things I Say The Most
i don't know (its something i say all the time and i don't know how to ans this part either)
haha
please
oh hi
no its ok
haha
i'm serious (as in, i'm serious i laugh alot, but i also do say i'm serious all the time)
that was totally lame but its nice to know you can do totally lame things and not have to care abt the fact that you spent time on it =)
marlz
11/26/2006 02:33:00 ip.
tiistaina, marraskuuta 21, 2006
education, educated, educatified
so so so.
i know its one thing to be educated. and another thing to be well educated.
and then its another thing to succeed when well educated, and then succeed without having a nice picture of your university graduation.
i do like to do the primary school "waaaah" and die of awe when i see people with Dr. in front of their names, or who have walls plastered with certificates of this and that, and who graduated from prestigious universities and all.
but if i compare them to those people who've made it big without the certification, then i would say i'm more in awe of the latter. its a heck of a lot more difficult trying to make it when you don't have the credentials.
and then i wonder, if, just if those people who have those certificates and that experience that that ivy league school, didn't go through tertiary education. if they would be as successful. education opens up many many opportunities, more so if you are from a good school. since the world is elitist in that way.
but seriously, if we assume that these people didn't have their certificates, would they make it?
if they did, maybe it would be because they have a fire in their belly during their academic years that translates onto the streets.
if they didn't it just means they graduated and then made use of the many and varied opportunites they got access to when they managed to get hold of that cert. which, is not wrong, since we're supposed to make the best out of what we have. they happen to be in the position to be able to make the best of the best.
but people who don't have a cert, well, they have no choice now do they? they have to make do with what little they have, and sometimes, it can be really really really little. it goes three ways 1. you become a criminal, go to jail and live off the state 2. you become a beggar and live off the state 3. you work hard in walmart and become the manager. 4. you become really famous either due to entrepreneural skill or some other talent you possess.
so really, if you succeed when you're not well educated, it means you have other virtues that are better than the fastest working brain on earth. it means you have talent, or persistence, or endurance, or simply an ego and self confidence that inflates like a magical souffle in a hot oven even after being collapsed repeatedly (just picture andy)
it doesn't mean ppl who succeed and have a good education don't. its just that its not as necessary for a person with good education who has good job prospects to have them, or to cultivate them as a person who doesn't. then they have to rely on their character to pull them through, and not just their brains.
given, there are people with both brains and say, talent, and that makes for a potent combination in a person. basically, they could have the world, if they just tried to get it. the brainy ones with no talent/beauty/creativity/spirit would lose out to them.
so what does that really say about being well-educated/brainy. besides just gaining you good job prospects, is it really of any use at all? personally, i'd like to be married to a charming, kind and humourous person who might or might not be good looking rather than a walking encyclopedia or a walking CPU who would probably just bore the life out of me.
and then some people who hardly had a good education have tons more money than those who do. many, in fact. does that, sorta undermine education as a means to prepare someone for the workforce?
then wouldn't what the world, what the employers look for not be actually be credentials but talent, creativity, a good personality and sometimes even good looks?
then wouldn't good education be redundant, except to get you your first job? (which, admittedly, is rather crucial)
i don't know. i never have all the answers and this is one instance.
marlz
11/21/2006 04:26:00 ip.
torstaina, marraskuuta 16, 2006
a rare funny moment
yea i forgot! i think the feeling of freedom is really getting me forgetful.
i know i'm probably the lamest person on earth, but i did say something mildly funny on msn with evie darling :
marlz. antipop says:
you know what i feel like i'm on holiday already
marlz. antipop says:
yay
. i am not a child but i can still dream.. says:
totally.
. i am not a child but i can still dream.. says:
i didnt do anythng today la
marlz. antipop says:
me too
marlz. antipop says:
i slacked arnd. surfed arnd. cycled arnd. i slept, but not slept arnd. lol
. i am not a child but i can still dream.. says:
hha!
. i am not a child but i can still dream.. says:
funnyt~
see, she thought it was funny too! haha
marlz
11/16/2006 03:42:00 ip.
smells of the holidays
yea yea, so the A's aren't LEGITIMATELY over right. (omgdness, i totally had a Edmond moment. you know Edmond in King Lear? that whole soliloquy where he contemptuously repeats the word legitimate with disgust)
but today did mark the day where i finished all the "heavy" papers. tuesday and wednesday were econs days. which wasn't too great.
and then today was human geography, and the fact that i see mr chen's smirk in my head whenever i mention the subject doesn't really help. i wasn't too worried after completing the paper, BUT my worse-than-me-worrywart classmates got me worked up a little over my answers. i thought i had worrywart tendencies, looks like i'm not the only insecure one.
so i've decided to conveniently drop the subject (haha, geddit geddit?) of success in the A's for now. and focus on the fact that tomorrow and next wednesday are actually days when i get to sit for papers that i LIKE sitting for.
call me nerdy but i do find enjoyment in doing the Gothic and the Unseen papers. nevermind the grade, which you can always worry about afterwards. i've found out that i did like those papers since the block tests this year. so i'm a geek. shut up.
so the relatively fun papers are coming up, and then its the free for all kind of fun that makes me go mad.
so anyways, i've also decided that while it would be wonderful if i ace the A's (God willing), its also more important not to be too crestfallen should i not ace them. i've a more important test to pass : life. so too bad A's you're not a big a bully as you thought you'd be. i've got bigger fish to fry =)
lalala. premature celebrations anyone? i badly wanna go on this kayaking expedition this saturday, and i hope someone can join me! relive the OBS days and all. wonderful. if not i think i'll have to go alone, but i suppose it'll be fun all the same. if only it isn't too sunny, a tan is the LAST thing i want right now.
marlz
11/16/2006 03:29:00 ip.
tiistaina, marraskuuta 14, 2006
and yet again i crash and burn
i am really quite pissed with myself because i screwed up a question, an ENTIRE question for econs paper 3.
tomorrow and another cruel cycle of worrying, last minute cramming, worrying some more, contemplating your fate, and then after that a surge of excitement and emptiness.
and the day after
and the day after.
wonderful. i suppose you could always say that its the end. but hello. its only ever been the beginning of the end. it ends when you get your results. and even then its a beginning. because you're moving on to greater things, some with greater great things than other people. and then on to more cruel worrying, last minute cramming, worrying, and contemplating your fate.
and i was wondering why everything seems so routine and cyclical. just proves i'm dumb.
marlz
11/14/2006 01:50:00 ip.
perjantaina, marraskuuta 03, 2006
the beginning of the end
so the A lvls came. crept up and scared the hell outta me.
by the way hudzy-wudzy, i LOVE you for calling me on wednesday *muacks*. after the last time, i thank God i have friends like you, and nursila and whoever else called and sent messages to make sure i turn up!
that day jacob sent me a message saying all the best which tickled me pink. 1. because he sent the message. 2. because the message is "all the best" and not the conventional "good luck". made me remember his reaction when i wished him good luck for O lvls and he made me feel rather nonplussed. he said : "i don't believe in good luck" haha. thank you jacob for being a super duper friend!
so anyways, besides again being shown what gems of friends i have, the other lesson i've learnt from GP is never to take anything even mildly caffeinated on the eve. more specifically, during the later half of the day. trust me, you're not gonna get much sleep and caffeine kills your sleepiness even more. i slept only 1 and a half hours or so before GP.
another thing is, not to take a nap in the afternoon. you will, and i repeat, you will not be able to sleep.
despite that the paper went fine i guess. i wasn't too happy about the AQ. and the summary as usual. the language question went ok, but i'm not too sure about whether i managed to discuss everything that was supposed to be discuss.
at the rate i'm worrying abt waking up and doing the right things, i'm gonna turn into a female version of gerard blonde way. (i think he looks gd with the hair, though i still prefer the dark hair. maybe he tuned into SI during a freak moment sometime and saw paul twohill therefore deciding it was time for an image revamp!)
20 more hours of papers to sit for. 8 more papers to my freedom. and then its time to relax
GOOD LUCK everyone
11/03/2006 03:25:00 ap.