marlz. daughter. sister. friend. cousin. girl. 1988. born to die.
maanantaina, marraskuuta 28, 2005
banners
our red dragon has gotten its first coat of paint. seriously, i haven't had so much fun in school since the band camp. we came back to school to paint the banner for alhena and finish up our placards. so sze hwei traced out the dragon and the "IMMORTALITY" on top of it. was kind of funny because the head blocked the T on the word somewhat so from a distance the word looked like "IMMORALITY". haha. hope that when we finish painting it it looks ok.
during lunch the alhenians went to west mall/west plaza/whatever its called. me and isabelle, however, decided to scrimp and stay in school to eat sandwiches and drink lemon barley. so i sent her to the bus stop after that because she had to leave and then i went to hang out with castor peepz who were very nice and let me hang out with them.
aft that when the alhenians came back we spent a bit of time just lazing around. then there was music and and danile and kah kui decided to shimmy. so the accidentally in love became a laughing session. the two of them dancing was so funny i got stomach cramps and tears came to my eyes. haha. especially the "girl" daniel. he looked really funny. and somehow they got entangled while turning because when they turned they ended up turning both in different directions. aft that some of us including me when to join so there wouldn't be and guy guy dancers who made the rest have a laughing fit.
so we finally went to paint the red aft the white we painted as a base coat dried. i got paint all over myself. on my forehead and i even stepped into this pool of red paint. we started out with a whole group of people that in the end dwindled to lucien, sze hwei, you mei, daniel, kah kui, adeline and myself. so we did the red paint.
its a nightmare, seriously, i had to use turpentine to get the paint off myself so that i wouldn't look like an idiot. and it stank. it was even worse when 3 of us girls went to wash the used paint brushes and the toilet sinks became red. it was so obvious we're the culprit lar. who else needs so much red paint right? so we had to use loads of turpentine. then i went out for a drink at the water cooler and the moment i stepped back into the toile i nearly choked because of the smell. anyone could have gotten high in that terribly ventilated and turpentine doused place.
went straight home and then straight to the aeropuerto to see my sister off to finland. that brat. see how she likes sitting on the plane for 14 hrs. i've learned my lesson. i'm going to sit on a transit flight the next time i go back. sitting for 14 hrs straight suck. really.
gosh i'm really tired. but i still am rambling. tomorrow i'm having band prac at 2. nd i know we're kicking into full gear bcos of the com. my poor poor lips and teeth. i don't know what remedy or potion or concoction can revive them after the whole week. die.
sheesh. being an ogl really rocks. but coupled with band pracs, it becomes very tiring. so i shall go and rest now. heippa
marlz
11/28/2005 02:52:00 ip.
lauantaina, marraskuuta 26, 2005
lazy days
i want a lazy day! i haven't had a single one during this holiday. eveyday has either been alhena meetings or band practices or even if i'm at home, cleaning and cleaning and more cleaning.
i want to loaf about on the sofa and have the curtains blow over the tv screen while i'm watching until it irritates me and i have to go and fasten the darn thing.
i want to sleep in the living room because i'm comfy and i'm too lazy to move a limb.
i want to wake up afterwards feeling the warm warm 4 o'clock sunlight making my skin tingle, and then smile broadly at the sky and try and identify whether there are cumolo nimbus or cirrus clouds.
i want to fold clothes while sitting on the rocking chair and be the world's worst goof ball until my family tells me to shut up, get lost, or do both.
i want to read my geog text because of a lack of anything more interesting to read and because i've finished reading all the national geographic magazines on my dad's shelf. all 300+++ copies of them.
i want to sit and dream of better days where we have an unlimited supply of oxygen, water, clean energy, when earthquakes can be predicted and and population problems in the world, be it under or overpopulation is solved =)
i want to sit staring blankly at the wall and then start humming all the songs i've ever played over and over again, just to amuse myself.
i want to yawn, curl up and fall asleep like a cat does, as an when i like it during the course of the day.
i want to go for a leisurely spin at pasir ris park, or ever better, all the way to changi to my favourite spot and let the sea breeze tousle my hair and tickle my ears.
band prac killed me today. i got home and i dieded on the sofa in the living room. i even turned down my parents' offer to go out with the rest of the family for dinner. instead i stayed at home, and fell asleep in the living room with the singapore -laos match blaring on tv. and then i woke up with cramps because i was in an awkward position. how boring.
i remember jonjon sometime ago with this on msn " ooh is that a life? where can i get one?" haha. looks like its high time for me to ask the same question.
oh yes. a bit of an announcement. all alhenians please pay me $3 asap. or i'll hang outside your home everyday begging for the money. haha. fear me people.
there was this incident with a crazy man in the bus home aft prac yesterday, but i shall not talk abt it. i've now learnt that its best to have a buddy to accompany you on the bus home, no matter how short the bus trip may be. i nearly had a heart attack on the bus and i literally ran off the bus. thank gdness the bus driver stopped me and told me to get back on. it wasn't even my stop you know. nice people are very nice =)
scrape that last statement. it doesn't make any sense. its because its 1.25 am and i'm high on urbanization. don't even talk abt revision, because i haven't started on anything else but geog. ok maybe a teeny bit of econs. but that it.
and i miss jake. he wrote this really long entry after a long long long stagnant period that very nearly reduced me to tears. thank gdness i was too tired to cry or i might have.
i want my lazy sundays and lazy days back. grrrr...
i'm too conked to make any sense. so i shall go and sleep now. take care and heippa
marlz
11/26/2005 04:48:00 ip.
maanantaina, marraskuuta 21, 2005
ALHENA!
the ogl camp was great. until towards the end. but anyways, first the good and then the bad.
the first day we had wet and wild. was super fun, and our group had quite a number for former zosma members. alhena soooo rocked. anyways, we had loadsa fun getting wet, cheering ourselves hoarse and just acting dumb lar. then yijun and me broke away from alhena to go for band prac. we were very very afraid that ms sia would scold us for being late and having lunch while everyone else was having sectionals. so we kept a lookout for her just in case and fortunately, finished on time and headed to the band room. was on my toes the whole time during practice. nearly died of fright. and i had to wipe my palms on my skirt thrice as many times as usual. they were very clammy. and i played many wrong notes, and fumbled many many times. terrible.
after that we left for ogl camp again. we learnt the new couple dance! jon ma was laughing at me cos i was too tall for my first partner to twirl me, so i had to change partners. bleah. but its very nice, accidentally in love by counting crows. the best part has to be where we exchange partners. such an adrenaline high. after that we went for dinner and went back for dial m. i tried to help my group along my speeding them up so we could finish faster. was kinda boring since i already have played. but the end was priceless. i felt like laughing when they came up with the "satanic ritual" idea. and that Mr Seetoh killed his own son. memories memories. i loved the game during band camp, but i must say that it has sorat lost its appeal since i knew all the clues. the others enjoyed it though, which is great! Ruzaini, Zhijun and Amelia were asking me for the actual ending but i refused to tell them. was kinda mean, but i had to. haha. sorry guys.
after that we had sharing session and we slept. was terrible sleeping because it was too cold. i first slept with my head on the table like usual, but then had to shift into my sleeping bag cos i was freezing. i woke up early and bathed and then we had breakfast.
aft breakfast we had a super dance session that lasted 3 hours. the ultimate workout. was for the other new mass dance which is also very very nice. and then we had OH time.
so the bad bit comes here. i msut say i'm the most accident prone person i've ever met. (besides wenqi of course) i visited first aid 3 times. yep 3, not once or twice. the first time was because i had a blister and needed a plaster. the second time was to get eye drops because of eye irritation. the third time was the worst.
i was outside the hall during OH time, happily minding my own business and we were about to proceed to area cleaning when a gust of wind came and blew the big rolling whiteboards outside the hall right on top of me. the metal edge hit my lower back and bore the entire weight of the board. at that point i was in shock and suddenly i felt a sharp stabbing pain where the board hit me and i remembered. oh no. my back problem. the pain just got worse and worse so i started to cry and you mei had to bring me to first aid.
terrible. the councillors were super nice and tried to help me ease the pain as best they could. i went to mobilize my back, so the pain would go away faster and it worked! it really started to subside. then mr yao brought me to the doctor's along with loulle and azlyn and i got some muscle relaxants and ointment. so i went home and slept the pain off.
i must ask. why. why is it ALWAYS me who has these kind of freak accidents. first it was at the nyaa camp where i injured my knee on the first day and couldn't go for the expedition. then it was jogathon where i fell at the starting line and was stopped from running three quarters of the way. after that was the next years jogathon when my back gave me problems cos i was crouching too long. and then it was obs when i got exhausted and dehydrated from the heat during the land expedition and was unaware on my own actions. after that i sprained my ankle numerous times, including on court during flooball at mj. and now this. WHY. you know i would rather be suffering with my fellow team mates than suffering from pain alone and being looked after by other people. i want to look after my team mates, not vice versa.
and you know what. as if its not enough. my lower back is still sore and i still have to depend on the muscle relaxants to rid me of some of the pain. see. some of the pain. not all. cos my spine is hurting too, not just the muscles. the doctor said that if it still hurts tomorrow then i have to go for an xray. i don't want an xray. i can't afford to waste more time on being injured. i need to do loads of things, and i'm just hampered by the pain and the annoying fact that if i over exert myself then i will need more medical help. just when i'm raring to go.
i'm so dumb i'm so dumb i'm so dumb i'm so dumb.
terrible. at least i did manage to somethow offer my help today at school during the meeting with the rest of the alhenians. alhena never dies =) and i'm treasurer! at least i'm doing something useful. instead of laying around like some invalid. bleah.
i just wish the pain will not bother me anymore tomorrow morning.
to the rest of the alhenians going for sentosa tomorrow, have a great time! i really wish i could join all of you.
i have to get some sleep, going to the doctors again tomorrow morning.
heippa then
marlz
11/21/2005 04:15:00 ip.
perjantaina, marraskuuta 18, 2005
OGL Camp
OGL camp is tomorrow! i'm super nervous/excited/apphrehensive/happy. even i don't know what i'm feeling so just cancel out the feelings that you don't care for above. what i do know is taht i have butterflies in my tummy, which is something that happens when its one of the stated emotions. haha
have to pack. have to read my books. have to revise. have to do some laundry for tomorrow. have to this. have to that. i fear i won't have a long enough hols to do all that i want to do!
and, did i tell you that Salla and Kati are very very shocked to know that i've been in school almost everyday during the school holidays? they think its ridiculous. haha. thats my IB girls for you.
oh well, i must go and work off some of my butterflies now and get started on all the prep for tomorrow.
heippa
marlz
11/18/2005 12:54:00 ip.
torstaina, marraskuuta 17, 2005
vilmanstrand
yep. the date is set. my sis is leaving for finland on the 28th, which might or might not clash with a band prac, depending. if it does, i just will have to rush down for band after seeing her off. if that's possible.
perhaps next year after the big A's i too will head down to vilmanstrand for a visit. it will definitely depend on my choice of higher education. preferably, i'd like to study in finland, simply because its so much cheaper than university in singapore. lets rephrase that so you'd get a better picture of how much cheaper it is. the tuition fees in university are fully sponsored for by the goverenmnet. if you STILL don't get it, i mean that schooling is free even at university level.
whether or not i'll manage there or i get to study what i desire is another matter altogether. sure, i may be able to converse quite fluently and read and write in finnish, but i've never actually tried studying a subject in finnish. except for perhaps my brief stint in the finnish supplementary classes i took at overseas family school down at patterson road. even the IB that i attended in lyseo was fully english, though most of the time we'd lapse into finn. i have to say that the history lessons at lyseo were superb, and the content was very interesting. i miss antti and his weird hairdo and wacky personality already =)
then again, there is always the sibelius academy, where i do believe i can fare pretty well, considering that there aren't many clarinettists around in finland, and that i love performing and music in general. they don't have many wind bands or wind orchestras, meaning less wind players around. that means that i'm in demand. but then there's fees to talk about and not to mention, there isn't competition for me, which is bad, because i like competition. it makes me push myself that much harder.
oh dearie me, it seems that i am in quite a fix. its either finland or singapore, and i can't seem to be able to make a good choice. it has everything to do with those little bits of metal and paper that we rely on so much. why can't money just fall from the sky so that i'd hawe a much easier time settling my schooling issues. then i'd be able to pay for what i want to do and actually do it.
guess i'll just have to push the decision making aside for a teeny bit longer, even if its terrible to do it. meanwhile i've been surfing the net for information on finland's demography. couldn't find the demographic transition for finland, but i did manage to find the population pyramid and also a graph for the amount of greenhouse gas emissions from finland.
is it me or am i actually starting to miss geog lectures and tutorials?
anyone with empty bottles (plastic) please contact me asap ok? i need them for logistics for MMM. any size will do. thanks!
heippa then
marlz
11/17/2005 06:53:00 ap.
tiistaina, marraskuuta 15, 2005
PW
i feel so relieved that i'm officially done with PW. i can kiss late nights, multiple copies of WRs and worrying about my group members goodbye! i must say i have the most wonderful group to work with. and i'm so proud and happy to be their group leader, because they made my job so easy and also so enjoyable in its execution!
a bit of an update before i give my tribute to my MJ191-ers. i met eileen on the bus yesterday on the way to school for the OGL meeting. i wanted to laugh out loud when she told me that zhen hong's hair looks like a mop. it wasn't so much what she said,but how she said it. and also because i know zhen hong quitw well. haha. but i didn't laugh, or else i would have attracted alot of unwanted stares. so annoying. its not as if i don't get enough stares when i'm outside my home. these people act as if they have never seen a caucasian on the telly before, and make me feel so awkward.
oh yah,
THE PUSSY WUSSY KOALA KING wants me to Increase the font. This big enough for you? =)felix and i had an argument, that is still ongoing, about me being a "colonial master" taking away "the rights we never had", just to quote somethings he said. i don't know why he had to start it anyways, and it sprung from this harmless comment that i passed during the lunch break at band prac on saturday. about my hair being a nice colour, and that he had to dye if he wanted to get the same colour. a bit shameless, i admit, but colonial masters?! like wth.
soso, my tribute.
MJ191 is made up of Adher, Lisa, Marilyn and Justin. i recall, when we first embarked on the massive task of PW, many people thought that we were going to have problems, because of the fact that Adher was always having soccer practices and that Lisa was always asleep. but i would never, ever trade my group members for anyone else, because they have been the BEST ever. seriously
Justin "Tightshirt" Tit. Always the one who's picked on by us girls. The person who solved all computer problems from our group as well as other groups. The person who is our most meticulous and critical member. The one who turns up early, whent he rest of us are on time or late. And the one who wore a tight shirt. Most valuable for all his contributions when gossiping and joking, for helping with all the computer stuff and staying up late a night online with me, helping to put together everything.
Lisa. The sleeper. The one who comes up with the most brilliant ideas. The life of our group. The one who doesn't know the difference between whitesands primary and pasir ris primary. The one who thinks she can walk through walls. The one, who, always turns up when you need her. The one who decided to take secret pictures of some people early in the morning. Most valued for falling asleep on peoples laps, keepings spirits high, providing comic relief by losing her way, and for lending us her house to slack and work in.
Marilyn. My elegant tai tai queen! The cool and collected one. The one who hates *beep* as much as me. My letsbullyjustin partner. The one who always hands in her work first. The most patient person on earth. The one who always gushes about johnny depp with me. the person who always has the right thing to say at the right time. Most valued for accompanying us everywhere, staying in school till late late late so that we can finish nonsense stuff, the one who always keeps in contact with everyone else, and for being 1/3 of the threesome Adher, Marlina and Marilyn.
Adher. The soccer star. The one who is most humble. The person who is quiet yet came up with all the core ideas of our project. The person who makes Mrs Logan laugh the most. The most humourous speaker in our team. 1/3 of the threesome AMM. =) The one who always underestimates himself. The one who does his work on time, ALWAYS. The one whom we respect the most! Most valued for injecting the fun into our OP, for lending us his laptop countless times, for always being there to sign our cover pages on time, for proving all other groups wrong when they thought you were MIA, and especially for being the sweetest group member alive!
MJ191, i can truly say i love you guys =) we must make our tribal council video soon ok?
i feel so free! can't wait for the Genting trip! its truly time to have fun
marlz
11/15/2005 08:16:00 ap.
perjantaina, marraskuuta 11, 2005
sour plum faerie
my teeth ache. i'm sure they are going to drop out any moment. geez...
band prac has gotten more and more tiring. and there's been less and less people. i pity yijun, and the section leaders who have to call people up repeatedly. you know, i thought that band prac is meant to be attended, whether or not your feel like going. apparently, some people don't feel the same.
i can understand if there are certain reasons for it. but sometimes, i find the excuse so feeble that i can help but start tutting. once or twice, maybe, but surely not all the time. the band is as weak as its weakest member, and if the weak members don't come then i ask, what is the point of practicing?
anyways, i shall end my tirade on the decreasing number of members who turn up religiously for practice lest someone feel offended and bombard me. just so people know, i'm not addressing anyone in particular, just feeling annoyed that my hard work is affected and i have to rework something because someone missed a practice or two and needs to learn that part.
something that our conductor never fails to say during practice "AGAIN!" *rubs nose*
i've really taken to tea alot these days. i'm totally convinced that all that tommyrot in enid blyton and other very english books about tea being a remedy to all ailments, including broken hearts, is actually true.
i like tea because its soothing. it warms you up when you are cold. eases tummy aches. thick black tea gets rid of diarrhoea. it makes you calmer when you are angry, or sad. it cools you down when you are hot, especially with a nicebit of lemon and heapings of ice shavings. it helps you get to sleep. and it can help you keep awake. all depending on what type of tea you brew and how.
grannies are so wise to make it their drink of choice. and i shall do so too! i can just imagine a little old lady, with snow white hair and frail as a tiny sparrow perching on the dining room chair. she stirs her tea slowly to cool it and looks out the window, thinking of all the people she has encountered, all she has done and means to do. she takes a sip, and lets the warm liquid slowly trickly down her throat, steaming up her glasses in the process. she watches the clouds pass slowly, in their own leisurely way, and continues sipping, quietly.
i've often done that with my grandparents during my stay in finland. we'd wait till it was 5 or 6. my isoäiti would call me from my room, and a hot mug of fruit tea would be sitting on the dining room table, or in the kitchen. the smell would be just so heavenly. then there'd be earl grey in the pot, bubbling slowly for me and säsä. we'd take cinnamon buns out of the freezer and put them in the microwave. then we'd eat them hot in the living room while sipping our tea, watching the snow flakes drift down in the dark street outside and listening to the wind howl round the house. then we'd engage in a long conversation about cabbages and kings, and nothing in particular, or we'd watch another soppy british soap opera on television.
and when i got a cough because of running around in the cold outside without a hat, isoäiti made me a cup of scaldingly hot peppermint tea. which did just the trick, because the next day i was totally cured.
see, one cannot blame another of being so fond of tea when the memories attached to the beverage are just so pleasant. just one whiff of the stuff can make me feel so overcome by nostalgia, that i just can't help but reach out for the mug and make myself a cup.
and for the party animals, there is a tea for parties too you know. its called long island tea. =)
oh well, enough of my rambling about tea. my eyes are about to shut on me. heippa
marlz
11/11/2005 02:10:00 ip.
tiistaina, marraskuuta 08, 2005
avoiding people
just back from band prac. was super fun. i love =)
i'm in a particularly good mood. i finished op yesterday, and it went quite well. band was good. i'm tasting true freedom tomorrow. and i'm home relatively early. life is good.
since life is good, i'm a good mood and also since i'm *cough* naturally *cough* kind *cough* i shall share something that i've become very good at in the past 5 years.
being a former councillor meant being under the schools observation and being scrutinized by everyone you could possibly know. AND when you get someone in trouble with the authorities in the name of duty, things may get awkward you and the said person.
besides that, personal issues may make things awkward between you and a person in school. so, i've devised a guide to avoiding people that you choose to avoid (call him/her the avoidee) for people in your class as well as out of your class.
over the years, i find that i've honed my skills at avoiding, and have become quite good at it, if i may say so myself. and i must type it out or i'm going to forget it sooner or later. i don't avoid that much in jc, except for a few odd cases.
so here it goes...
1. get to know a little about your avoidee. this has to be done should your avoidee be in a different class from you. if your avoidee is in the same class as you, this should not be a problem. things you should find out about your avoidee are namely the avoidee's favourite hangouts in school, the avoidee's routes to classes, the avoidee's recess and break times as well as the avoidee's good friends.
2. avoid all eye contact with the avoidee. the worst thing to do is to stare at the avoidee, as this will attract the avoidee's attention. remember that less eye contact means it is less likely that the avoidee will notice you or attempt to initiate conversation, thus meaning less contact with the avoidee which is your main purpose in avoiding him/her (duh!)
3. learn to recognize your avoidee from far far away. even better if you have good eyesight, or are walking a floor above from the intended corridor. it is of utmost importance that you check that the coast is clear before proceeding, and even then, proceed with caution. some avoidees have a nasty habit of popping out of classrooms suddenly, or coming round corners at breakneck speeds to spring a surprise on you. by recognizing the individual from far away, you can quickly move towards alternative routes and thus avoid contact. if you are unfortunate enough to be in a tight spot remember instruction number 4.
4. when walking school corridors, remember to be carry something in your hands or in your bag that will make you look busy. useful items include a timetable, a piece of paper, a book, or (the most common of them all) a handphone. remember to take small and slow steps to make it look as if you are absorbed in whatever you are reading. this will make sure that anyone, not just your avoidee, will not bother you on your way to classes or the other places in school. this is also very handy when you just happen to walk down the same corridor as the avoidee or if your avoidee suddenly springs round a corner.
5. make sure you wear a watch, or carry a handphone. should you be so unlucky as to bump into the avoidee or see the avoidee coming your way, glance repeatedly at your watch, or furrow you brow as you gaze at your handphone and run/stride quickly to your destination, thus giving the avoidee the slip.
6. take note of the avoidee's route to school and which form or transport that the avoidee uses to get to school. this information is very good if the avoidee happens to stay in the same neighbourhood as you. also, take note of the time that the avoidee makes their way to school, so as to avoid ANY contact at all. come earlier, later,on different transport. anything but with the person on the bus or mrt, or even worse, walk in the gate at the same time. makes things very difficult you know.
7. in the event that you just happen to see your avoidee on the way to school, start daydreaming, or even better, pretend to sleep. by appearing worried, absorbed in something, or asleep, your avoidee will certainly not bother you on the way to school. aft you reach the stop, and if you do alight at the same stop, run off like a mad person to the nearest toilet, or to a friend that is just ahead of you, denying the avoidee of the opportunity of talking to you or waving hi.
8. have a friend/group of friends in the know. a good/best/close friend(s) who knows the reasons as to why you are avoiding the avoidee and to the avoidee's identity always serves as a most valuable look out for you. also, if you are walking down a corridor and you don't spot the avoidee, your friend (who usually would accompany you, i assume) could nudge you and then immediately start a conversation. make sure you look as if the both of you are totally absorbed in the conversation. the best way to do this is to engage in the ohgoodnessyouaresofunnyguffaw conversation or ihavesomethingserioustotalkabout conversation. look at your feet while you are speaking, walk slowly and never ever pay any attention to anything around you so that you don't attract attention.
9. should your friends not know abt the avoidee or why you are avoiding the person, remember to act indifferent. do not discuss the avoidee in class (especially if the avoidee is in the same class) and pretend to not be interested in any information. it is important to gather information without appearing as if you are, as this will attract attention and might lead to a confrontation ebtween you and the avoidee. best just to avoid the topic of the avoidee altogether. however, if your friends are in the know, then it is ok to discuss him/her.
10. even better, pretend the avoidee is nonexistant. this way, you'll forget totally about the avoidee. look past the avoidee's shoulder or through the avoidee should the person look at you. pretending the person is invisible, or that you don't know the avoidee (again if, you friends don't know), would minimize the possible contact you might have with the avoidee or any interaction that would be expected of you with respect to the avoidee if people know you have met with the avoidee previously.
11. avoid the avoidee's usual hangouts in school as well as the avoidee's best friends like plague. this, however, does not work with avoidees that are classmates with you. if the avoidee's friends happen to be mutual friends with you already, it will not be wise to avoid them as this will mean less friends for you and also that you may run the risk of the avoidee catching on that you are avoiding him/her. simply avoid all conversation about the avoidee, and you ought to be fine in the company. if they aren't your friends, then best keep away from them. keeping away from hangouts also lessens the chance of the two of you running into each other.
12. in the event that you run into the avoidee without realising it and the person greets you, then utter a greeting, ask how the person has been, comment that you have not seen each other for a long time, and make up a reason for it. should the avoidee ask you a question, answer in a civil manner then squeeze out a smile, even if it makes you look constipated and say that you have something to do and rush off like there are a thousand dragons on your tail. this would be more realistic if you look at your watch repeatedly, avoid eye contact and shift from foot to foot during the brief conversation.
13. should the avoidee be bold enough to tap you on the shoulder whilst you are in the company of friends, act as in 12, and then conveniently brush off the avoidee by starting a conversation with your friend about something that is totally alien to the avoidee. then, allow the conversation to rattle on until the avoidee gets bored or feels left out and leaves. then rejoice because the avoidee left =)
14. if the avoidee gets wind that you are avoiding him/her and tries to confront you, feign ignorance. give a surprised smile, laugh and ask which dubious source did the avoidee such rubbish from. then politely say goodbye and leave for the washroom. wait long enough in the washroom until the coast is clear, or alternatively, don't go to the washroom at all and evacuate the area. the avoidee should feel reassured and leave feeling satisfied that the information he/she had was nonsense and leave you alone.
15. if the avoidee finds out that you really are avoiding him/her then things should get even simpler because the person will (in most cases) avoid you right back (aren't i clever) thus making sure that no awkward situations should arise whatsoever.
problem solved. *smiles demurely*
it is most important that your avoidee does not know that you are avoiding him/her. make sure it appears as if your avoidee does not bother you a mite. if the avoidee is in the same class, most of the above instructions ought to work, with some modification. if the avoidee has to work with you at all, make sure you are professional during group work or pair work and then avoid the avoidee.
-disclaimer : it is still better to work out your problems with the avoidee than just outright avoid the person. but as i know, in some cases, avoiding cannot be helped, and thus my very useful manual, mostly for my own use-
who said avoiding people was difficult aye?
marlz
11/08/2005 01:53:00 ip.
sunnuntai, marraskuuta 06, 2005
OP tomorrow
yep, the day has arrived. OP is tomorrow
i got the shock of my life this morning when lisa called and she couldn't speak at all. not a single word. all i heard was someone breathing down the phone and some attempts at speaking. and her mom called me
marilyna. i digress. but thank goodness she is so much better now, and very confident about tomorrow. i just hope she sleeps early tonight and gets her rest. if all goes well, we should be fine tomorrow.
i went for a proper band prac at last aft all the buzz of the first days of hari raya month. it was so good to play as a band again. i realise i'm so much softer, so i must catch up or ms sia will scold me for not playing loud enough or not practising enough. it was also very nice to meet with my band mates again. i miss band! but i think i shall get a hefty load of it in the weeks to come. genting trip is coming up and i must do my utmost to make sure that i sound good and support the band on that day. and especially that i don't press that stupid key at the side by mistake and squeak! terrible. i hate squeaking but its happening ever so often now, because of that darned key.
oh, invited my whole section over to my hse for hari raya and i'm gonna invite a whole load of other ppl too! i dunno how i'm gonna cope with so many people coming. i realise i also gave the wrong date for them to come, cos i've ogl camp on that same day. bleah. should have told them another date. hopefully it'll work out.
talking abt ogl stuff, its been quite ok so far. i was terrified that i'd be left out because i wasn't an ogl during the O2 this year and i wasn't here for the first 3 months, but its been working out fine. i was games ic that day and i think my game kinda flopped for the first two groups because there were so little people so in the end i changed my game here and there for the other groups and it went a little better. i felt i did relatively ok, especially since isabel, who was supposed to accompany me, totally did not appear until after the debrief because of op. and judging from what i hear from you mei, the camp should be ok too.
i'm really conked out because of all the activities on, so pardon the really bad entry. just did it for the sake of blawging. =)
marlz
11/06/2005 04:01:00 ip.
perjantaina, marraskuuta 04, 2005
tired
hari raya+ogl meetings+late nights out+waking up early = SUPER DUPER ABSOLUTELY 100% TIRED
don't ask me to blog properly now. i so need to prop my eyelids up with toothpicks now.
oh, selamat hari raya, maaf zahir dan batin to all my fellow muslims, and especially to great friends whom i've totally neglected for the sake of promos and pw like huda and hazirah and fatin and sallehin and co. sorry ya guys, remember to visit my hse so we can catch up!
for now i want to sleep...
nitenite
marlz
11/04/2005 02:22:00 ip.